How To Get Better Matches On Online Dating Sites

Sometimes searching through online dating sites can feel like a chore. And if you’re like me you end up getting hundreds of matches that you have to weed through because most of them aren’t even people that you would really want to date. You also have to deal with messages from people who clearly didn’t read your carefully constructed profile because they seem to have nothing in common with you. But online dating is the most popular way to meet people these days. So if you’re fed up with having to spend a lot of time combing through all your computer generated matches on dating sites here are some tips that will help you tweak your profile to get better quality matches. You may get fewer matches but the ones you get should be more likely candidates for dating.

Show Your Personality In Your Photos

Everyone knows the importance of having at least one full length photo in your profile so that any potential matches know what you look like. But you can also use your photos to show off your personality and make sure that the person who matches with you knows what you’re like before messaging you. A friend of mine dressed up in cosplay as her favorite TV show character in one of her photos. Another friend, who loves horror movies, did a horror makeover on herself and put a photo of herself in zombie makeup in her profile. People who aren’t into the same things that you are won’t message you when they see photos like that in your profile. And if someone does message you then  you’ll know that they actually like the same things you do.



It will only take a little effort

Be Clear About What You’re Looking For

There’s still a good chance that you’ll get messages from people that don’t read your profile entirely and don’t pay attention to the traits that you’re looking for in a partner. But if you are extremely specific about what you’re looking for and you list those attributes in your profile there’s a better chance that your list will weed out the people who send messages to anyone whose photo they like regardless of what that person’s profile says. And knowing exactly what you want will help narrow down the people that you want to actually meet from your matches.

Use Keywords

Online dating sites use an algorithm to find matches for the users on their site. So using keywords that indicate qualities or other things that you are looking for in potential dates is a good way to narrow down the matches that you like. In order to get the best results when the site gives you potential matches be as specific as possible. Don’t just put in your profile that you like movies, for example. List specific movies or actors that you like, similar to what you would do on social media. Same thing for TV, music, and other interests. Be as specific as you can so that you will get matched with other people who  use those specific names and titles.

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Social Media Changes To Improve Your Life

Social Media Changes 

I have a love/hate relationship with social media and I bet you do too. Social media is an amazing tool. We can stay connected to people we love, meet new friends, and get up to the minute news. Watching those likes and retweets pile up gives people a high similar to gambling. Facebook is adding dating to its mobile app. This will make it even harder for people to balance their time spent online. 

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Using the Instagram app on a cell phone

There is too much of a good thing. That’s why we should find balance in our lives. This involves spending less time on social media. As well as limiting your use on a cell phone spy apps. Some people say that you need to quit it entirely. But that’s not realistic and an extreme reaction. A better way to manage social media is to change your habits.

Remove Social Media AppS

If you like to use a tablet at night to read or watch TV, try removing the apps. I always pull my tablet out at night. Keep your tablet just for reading or watching TV  shows. The way iPads were meant to be used. You won’t be tempted to jump on Twitter or post a quick status on Facebook or scroll through Instagram. 

Buy An Alarm Clock

Try an old-fashioned alarm clock so that you can keep your phone in another room at night. You still need to wake up on time for work or school of course. But having your phone next to your bed makes it very tempting to check your apps. Now you’re likely checking them first thing in the morning, and even late at night. 

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Using Instagram on a computer

No Social Media At Work

Many people spend their workdays on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter and check their feeds constantly throughout the day. Make a commitment to stay off these apps during work hours. You can still check your social media on your phone during breaks or even during lunch hour. While I am telling you to take a break from technology, it is still useful. Like when my apartment security cameras caught a thief.